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Nutrition, Mindset, Positive Living, Gentle Movement such as Yoga, Music and Sound therapy, Energetic & Vibrational Healing will all be discussed here plus anything that is Wholistically related to our Health & Well-Being.

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my daughter

Started by lorena. Last reply by julia wagner Apr 3. 1 Reply

My 19 year old daughter has been clean off of meth for a year and a half. Last year we found out she was smoking marijuana and she stopped and had been clean for 6 months. A week ago she let us know that she was moving out with her friend. We founf…Continue

I Made It Through The Day With No Crazy Thoughts

Started by Tricia. Last reply by lorena Apr 3. 4 Replies

Today I made it through the day without obsessing over my son.  I didn't cry or fall apart.  I exercised during my lunch hour.  Thank you God for this gift today.Continue

INTERVENTION REQUEST EMERGENCY PLEASE HELP SAVE MY ONLY SON

Started by shannon marie. Last reply by Michele Nov 8, 2015. 1 Reply

cI WATCH INTERVENTION ALL THE TIME, AND I HAVE A SON WHO IS PRIOR MILITARY, AND HE WAS HONORABLY DISCHARGED FROM THE ARMY..I AM FROM KY, WHERE HE IS STILL LIVING, HOWEVER, I DID "TOUGH LOVE", and MOVED TO COLORADO TO BE WITH MY PARENTS, BECAUSE I…Continue

My Bottom line. 1 year sober. a job. And helping support her child

Started by Sharon Cry's. Last reply by dee Oct 28, 2015. 4 Replies

Its benn 10 years of rehabs. Lost money sober homes...cars bought health ins paid..tickets paid...mental hospitols...helping support my sweet grandson she abandened. I have doone it all onky fir her to be horrible to me...to be unapreciative...and…Continue

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Comment by Peg Smith on April 3, 2016 at 9:01pm
I am a new member to this group. Hoping to find a steady balance in taking care of me and letting my AS who is 24 know I love him but I won't be walked all over. Currently setting some increasing boundaries he is six months on methadone TX going fairly well no relapse at this time which is huge but how long will it last walking on egg shells some days.
Comment by Bibi Stein on February 18, 2016 at 9:56am

Anita, my son also is addicted to heroin & meth and has a mental illness

I would so like to talk with you

Also- If ANYONE knows a really good dual diagnosis Rehab that isn't super expensive- I would so appreciate you sharing that info

A Grateful for TAM, Bibi Stein

Comment by Anita Lucero on February 18, 2016 at 9:42am
You remind me of myself I too raised both of my kids by myself. Its been a long road, its so hard for me to show tough love because my son has a mental illness and is addicted to drugs. It is a daily battle no one can understand but us.
Comment by Brandi Davis on January 25, 2016 at 9:24am
I'm SO sorry to ALL of you and your families that are suffering due to this HORRIBLE disease... I too am a mom with a 28 year old son who is an addict... I just realized HOW sick he really is a couple of weeks ago.. It's the most absolute WORST pain I have ever had to endure in my life... I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy.. Anyway I'm so happy that I have found this site and group to hopefully learn how to go thru this.. I too was a single mother of three beautiful children.. I had my first child, a baby girl at 19. Then15 months later my ONLY son son was born. 7 years after that my baby Rach completed our family..I never knew what true unconditional love was until I had my kids.. Their Dad and I were too young to make our marriage last but we made it 10 years. I truly loved him. I knew by the time I chose to have Rachel (my baby) that we probably would end up divorcing but I wanted another child SO desperately that I rationalized that maybe a new baby would bring us closer.. Needless to say that didn't happen. My ex was just not ready to grow up and wouldn't hold down a job for long. I was the bread winner working 2 jobs all the time and a part time third job to buy Christmas.. I just did it.. I look back and wish I had just HALF the energy now as I did then lol! Long story short I didn't know HOW I could take care of everything by myself. (Even tho I already had been the wh*** time) I didn't know who I was without him and it terrified me.. I had to move 8 hrs away to leave him for good tho. I had a minor nervous breakdown and I knew that it was destroying me and I HAD to take care of my babies. They were my saving grace. I moved in with my oldest sister and "fell" into cocktail waitressing and bar tending. I thought I had hit the jackpot!! I was having a GREAT time AND making more money than I even thought possible! I know that God doesn't like divorce but I felt that he poured his blessings on me. I was able to buy a car at an auction for 600 dollars, got approved for a government subsidized apartment AND sliding scale child care!! Working in the bar environment I finally realized that people thought I was attractive and I loved the attention. However I was not aware of the all the "evils" that comes with that profession. I SO much wanted to get remarried and have a father figure for my kids (not to mention some help for myself) so I was a target for the "wrong"men.. My pastor had told me b4 I left my ex and moved that I was destined to raise my kids on my own because no man would want to take on THREE kids from a former marriage.. I ALWAYS wanted the American Dream.. A husband who made the money, kids, and a house with a white picket fence.. I had the kids already, and ended up buying the house by myself... And God knows I tried to find the husband!! Turns out my pastor was right. My point is because my kids didn't have their Daddy I overcompensated thru the years.. I carry a lot of shame and guilt because of this.. Not to mention the bad choices I made in other ways.. I am a codependent enabler and I HAVE to stop allowing my son to kill himself slowly right before my eyes.. It's KILLING us both. I am SO blessed with having two successful daughters and two BEAUTIFUL granddaughters, so I CANT let this disease rob me of the joys in life, OR rob my girls of their Mama and Grammy.. I'm sorry this post is so long but I just HAD to get it out. Being a bartender, I have to listen to my customers and be there for them.. I love people and don't mind it at all but now I need SOMEBODY who understands this thing called addiction to help me..
Thank you all so much
Comment by Michele on October 15, 2015 at 5:34pm
I have found learning all I can about heroin has helped me feel empowered. I read Nikki Sixx's Heroin Diaries because I wanted to get a sense of what my son might be feeling and thinking. It helps you differentiate the drug from your child. Reading about the subject also helps me respond to the questions of friends and family that think they have all the answers.
Comment by Vicke on October 15, 2015 at 7:31am
Kim my heart and prayers are with you. If our children never learn to handle painful situations( because we always do that for them right?!)they will never know the strength they have inside. That they CAN do it! And the self esteem it allows them to grow is priceless. Hang in there. Stay encouraged!
Comment by Sue on October 14, 2015 at 10:42pm
I understand what both of you are saying and it took me awhile to realize that my son was already killing himself and by giving into to him wasn't doing anything but allowing him to do so and in the mean time it was destroying me. I had just lost my older son to jail for his addiction and dealing of the drug that was killing my younger son and knew I had to stop the cycle. I knew that tough love or detached love was taking a big risk but I also knew that if I kept doing what I was doing he was going to die. So I put it in Gods hands and cried and prayed everyday that he would do the right thing and accept the rehab that I offered him. I thank God everyday that he made the choice to go. I was pure hell for 2 weeks. I will pray for you to gave the strength to make the decisions that are right for you. I'm here for you.
Comment by Kimberly Williams on October 14, 2015 at 10:32pm

Sue, thank you. Kim I get what your saying about tough love but my husband doesnt want to let him come home this time so I have decisions to make...I hate this.

Comment by Kim Inabnit on October 14, 2015 at 10:15pm
Its definitely hard not to try and rescue your child and I get so tired of people telling me to use the tough love approach. Tough love doesn't always work in a life or death situation and I'm not willing to take the risk of losing my daughter. She is in jail now and I have to say I'm almost relieved because I know she's alive. I always tell her that as long as she is alive there is hope and I'm willing to do whatever it takes to help her be successful in her recovery. It is so helpful to read all the comments and to know that others understand what I'm going through. God bless you all and I wish you all peace and knowledge to make the best decisions for your children.
Comment by Sue on October 14, 2015 at 10:14pm
Kimberly
Detaching and letting them fall is the hardest thing you will ever due as a mom right now. I understand how you feel because I just did it. My son is now in rehab and I have come to realize that if I didn't detach and not enable him any longer I probably would be facing a much larger heartache. Stay strong and detach with love. I'm hear for you if you need me. Message me if you would like to talk. Support and love is what you need. Xoxo
 
 
 

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